I agree that such behavior's improper. I'm saying that using terms like "rape culture" and promoting the belief system behind it, as outlined in materials such as the ones linked above, HURT the ability to educate those who don't understand those boundaries about why they're wrong.
I'm also saying that conceits like "privilege" (which, as noted, I'm going to be posting a MUCH longer bit on shortly in response to the blog you linked in corpsefairy's lj) and automatically assuming all men are guilty of being predators who're part of "rape culture" until proven innocent is contemptuous.
As for your point about women approaching men in elevators, most of society wouldn't see it that way. I'll point out two examples here.
First, and I can find the cite for this if you insist, in an article on women who fraudulently become pregnant (I use the word "fraud" in a very deliberate sense, the piece included examples of women doing things like falsely representing their identities to sleep with wealthy men & then harvesting sperm from condoms used to inseminate themselves in order to seek child support in huge amounts) there was a case where a woman told friends at a party she'd decided to have a baby. She went in to a bedroom, leaving the door open, where peoples' coats were stored and where a male guest was sleeping. She proceeded to fellate him to generate an erection and then she rode him cowgirl until he ejaculated. Several guests observed this and stated the man never became conscious. The woman herself told people "I screwed some unconscious guy to get a baby" and acknowledged multiple times that the guy was out the whole time. She did, in fact, become pregnant and didn't seek contact with the man until the baby was born, at which point she went to court to sue for full child support while pushing for him to have no contact with the child. His defense was that the child was essentially conceived via an act of rape and he should not be obligated to pay support since he didn't know the woman and had never consented. The woman not only won her request for full custody, the court found for her in assigning crippling support (based on a percentage of his income) to the man. Laws in most states support exactly that sort of verdict, and other similar cases have been decided that way on multiple occasions. The men who'd had their sperm "stolen" via the condom harvesting generally were stuck with support as well. A follow up piece not focusing on the pregnancy issue included several other cases of women engaging in criminal acts & the man paying a penalty, including multiple cases of underage girls obtaining false IDs, meeting guys in bars, having sex with the guys, who had every reason to believe they were of age, and the the guys ending up in jail for statutory despite the girl's admitted deceit. In those cases as well as the forcible paternity cases all the laws were biased against the men.
Second, look at the issue of domestic violence & I will specifically cite incidences in my personal life. There's a large body of evidence emerging that, in the US, domestic violence is instigated the majority of the time by the female of the couple. Because men are less likely to report it, police are less likely to pursue it, and men are likely to do more physical damage when they retaliate (note the use of the word "instigated," since it often becomes mutual). Men are almost never believed when they report it, and if they do report it & are believed the response is directed almost entirely on placing blame on him.
pt. 1 Re: "Rape culture" and the presumption of male guilt cont.
I'm also saying that conceits like "privilege" (which, as noted, I'm going to be posting a MUCH longer bit on shortly in response to the blog you linked in corpsefairy's lj) and automatically assuming all men are guilty of being predators who're part of "rape culture" until proven innocent is contemptuous.
As for your point about women approaching men in elevators, most of society wouldn't see it that way. I'll point out two examples here.
First, and I can find the cite for this if you insist, in an article on women who fraudulently become pregnant (I use the word "fraud" in a very deliberate sense, the piece included examples of women doing things like falsely representing their identities to sleep with wealthy men & then harvesting sperm from condoms used to inseminate themselves in order to seek child support in huge amounts) there was a case where a woman told friends at a party she'd decided to have a baby. She went in to a bedroom, leaving the door open, where peoples' coats were stored and where a male guest was sleeping. She proceeded to fellate him to generate an erection and then she rode him cowgirl until he ejaculated. Several guests observed this and stated the man never became conscious. The woman herself told people "I screwed some unconscious guy to get a baby" and acknowledged multiple times that the guy was out the whole time. She did, in fact, become pregnant and didn't seek contact with the man until the baby was born, at which point she went to court to sue for full child support while pushing for him to have no contact with the child. His defense was that the child was essentially conceived via an act of rape and he should not be obligated to pay support since he didn't know the woman and had never consented. The woman not only won her request for full custody, the court found for her in assigning crippling support (based on a percentage of his income) to the man. Laws in most states support exactly that sort of verdict, and other similar cases have been decided that way on multiple occasions. The men who'd had their sperm "stolen" via the condom harvesting generally were stuck with support as well. A follow up piece not focusing on the pregnancy issue included several other cases of women engaging in criminal acts & the man paying a penalty, including multiple cases of underage girls obtaining false IDs, meeting guys in bars, having sex with the guys, who had every reason to believe they were of age, and the the guys ending up in jail for statutory despite the girl's admitted deceit. In those cases as well as the forcible paternity cases all the laws were biased against the men.
Second, look at the issue of domestic violence & I will specifically cite incidences in my personal life. There's a large body of evidence emerging that, in the US, domestic violence is instigated the majority of the time by the female of the couple. Because men are less likely to report it, police are less likely to pursue it, and men are likely to do more physical damage when they retaliate (note the use of the word "instigated," since it often becomes mutual). Men are almost never believed when they report it, and if they do report it & are believed the response is directed almost entirely on placing blame on him.