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I Have A Type
May. 6th, 2020 01:11 amY'know how we all have those things about other people that just "do it" for us? Some of us have very predictable patterns so that we have a "type" and pretty much anyone who has those things will turn us on. Others of us are a little more selective and the things that do it for us are dependent upon the individual. We don't have a "type" so much as we like *people* and the collective traits that make up certain people who they are is what turn us on.
Franklin, for instance, very much has a type. If she's intelligent, opinionated, extra kinky, and has an advanced degree in the sciences, he's pretty sure to become smitten in a matter of minutes.
For me, it's forearms - veiny, knotty, rough-workened forearms (with short fingernails). Bonus points if they're dirty with engine grease or soil.
But it's also a handful of other things, as I've posted about before - respect for women, listening to me, being a good dancer, dressing appropriately (casual and ready to work for daily wear but taking the time and effort to dress up for social events, etc.), and a handful of other things.
I just discovered another one. I had a young man at my framing counter. He had several pieces of art that he wanted framed, of radically different styles. One was his, and two were his fiance's. In each case, he knew exactly how colors and tones and tints work together, and how they complimented (or didn't) the art.
He was not shy about knowing color or art. He didn't downplay it with "I just don't know about these things" or "this is usually my fiance's domain". He had *aesthetics*. And he didn't just have his own style, like, some people get into a specific aesthetic and they learn *that*, but they don't actually learn *color* or *art*. So they can do that genre well, but without the underlying principles they don't really *understand* so they can't apply it outside of their one niche.
But he understood the principles. So when it came time to frame his fiance's art, which was completely different from his own, he matched the frame and mats with the art, not his own personal aesthetic. This was for his fiance, after all, not him. So he picked out things that worked with the art, which, since his fiance likes that art, presumably the elements would also match his fiance's tastes instead of his.
As he was picking out framing elements, with an obvious skill for color theory and art, and also an obvious consideration for personal and subjective taste and his fiance's feelings, I noticed I was feeling disappointment at the assumption that he was probably monogamous (and also a customer) and therefore I couldn't hit on him.
Which then sparked the realization that this is one of my "things" - a cisman who exhibits many of the appearance traits that I associate with "masculine" who also has an appreciation and understanding of art, particularly those art forms that are stereotypically associated with "feminine", such as color theory and interior decorating.
I like people who are good at things, and I like cismen who, without needing to trade their non-toxic-masculine traits in exchange, are interested in and take on roles that are usually not just of interest to women, but that are *required* by women in hetero relationships - furnishing and decorating the home, pleasant aesthetics, an understanding of the politics of fashion (at least intuitively) so as to know how to dress "properly" for occasions, cooking and baking (not just BBQing and perfecting steaks), dancing, socializing and hosting, etc.
#ThisIsWhyJohnnyCastleIsMyIdealMan #HighStandards
Franklin, for instance, very much has a type. If she's intelligent, opinionated, extra kinky, and has an advanced degree in the sciences, he's pretty sure to become smitten in a matter of minutes.
For me, it's forearms - veiny, knotty, rough-workened forearms (with short fingernails). Bonus points if they're dirty with engine grease or soil.
But it's also a handful of other things, as I've posted about before - respect for women, listening to me, being a good dancer, dressing appropriately (casual and ready to work for daily wear but taking the time and effort to dress up for social events, etc.), and a handful of other things.
I just discovered another one. I had a young man at my framing counter. He had several pieces of art that he wanted framed, of radically different styles. One was his, and two were his fiance's. In each case, he knew exactly how colors and tones and tints work together, and how they complimented (or didn't) the art.
He was not shy about knowing color or art. He didn't downplay it with "I just don't know about these things" or "this is usually my fiance's domain". He had *aesthetics*. And he didn't just have his own style, like, some people get into a specific aesthetic and they learn *that*, but they don't actually learn *color* or *art*. So they can do that genre well, but without the underlying principles they don't really *understand* so they can't apply it outside of their one niche.
But he understood the principles. So when it came time to frame his fiance's art, which was completely different from his own, he matched the frame and mats with the art, not his own personal aesthetic. This was for his fiance, after all, not him. So he picked out things that worked with the art, which, since his fiance likes that art, presumably the elements would also match his fiance's tastes instead of his.
As he was picking out framing elements, with an obvious skill for color theory and art, and also an obvious consideration for personal and subjective taste and his fiance's feelings, I noticed I was feeling disappointment at the assumption that he was probably monogamous (and also a customer) and therefore I couldn't hit on him.
Which then sparked the realization that this is one of my "things" - a cisman who exhibits many of the appearance traits that I associate with "masculine" who also has an appreciation and understanding of art, particularly those art forms that are stereotypically associated with "feminine", such as color theory and interior decorating.
I like people who are good at things, and I like cismen who, without needing to trade their non-toxic-masculine traits in exchange, are interested in and take on roles that are usually not just of interest to women, but that are *required* by women in hetero relationships - furnishing and decorating the home, pleasant aesthetics, an understanding of the politics of fashion (at least intuitively) so as to know how to dress "properly" for occasions, cooking and baking (not just BBQing and perfecting steaks), dancing, socializing and hosting, etc.
#ThisIsWhyJohnnyCastleIsMyIdealMan #HighStandards
