joreth | Poly Jewelry (Reply)

There is often a clamor for polyamorous-themed jewelry, and there are some good poly jewelry makers out there (www.abzuemporium.com is the one I recommend most often). But tastes in jewelry are quite varied, and sometimes people don't like the heart/infinity combo that is the most popular poly-specific design, or they want something that looks more polished than some of the hand-crafted style jewelry that's out there. Sometimes, they just want something that looks "mainstream" without actually symbolizing "mainstream" (poly rings, especially wedding rings, are notoriously hard to find and most people just design their own).

But I've found that "mom" jewelry is a great way to find pre-made and "mainstream" looking jewelry that still accommodates the idea of multiple loves. "Mom" jewelry is that stuff designed to show a parent's love for children, and since there are so often more than one child, it really lends itself well to the idea of poly love, providing it doesn't actually say or symbolize motherhood on it. Birthstone jewelry is the most common example, where you can take any style of ring or pendent, and simply add the birthstones of all the people you want to represent. I've done that with my earrings lately - I took a straight pin and threaded it through the birthstones of my partners, and attached a fish hook earring to the top and voila! a poly earring that is unrecognizable as "poly" to anyone who doesn't already know what it means.

When I see some kind of jewelry that I think lends itself well to poly relationships, I tweet about them, but I found several today whose links were not working on twitter. Apparently, clicking on them resulted in a "can't find this item" message, but copy & pasting the url worked. The combination of requiring several tweets to include all the urls I found, plus the hassle of copy/pasting the urls has given me motivation to post them as a LiveJournal post. Plus, the urls will be there for future reference for anyone who wants them. I'll make these posts periodically under the tags "polyamory" and "recommendations". This one is exclusively "women's" jewelry. Apparently fathers don't care about wearing jewelry that expresses their love for their children, or something. Sorry guys & "masculine" jewelry-wearers. I do occasionally run across masculine poly-appropriate jewelry, so keep checking back for posts that include them.

Most of these are around $119 (a few are $99 or $149). Some have sayings engraved on the back so read the descriptions, but I took care to not post anything that explicitly said "mother" or "child" on it. Anything with engraved sayings should be rather neutral and just be about "family" that can be interpreted however you want. If the links don't work, try copy & pasting them into another browser window or tab.

So, with that long preamble, onto the jewelry!