Given how long we've been reading each other's journals, we've likely read a lot of the same sources. Although I don't know if I'd reposted everything I've read. I have probably read a few things from some of the people I friend who work in the field of psychology. They sometimes post fascinating things. I have trouble remembering who I get info from. But it may have been one of them who had a great article about when men engage in sex with women who do not want to have sex based on self-report. That one probably went around though. I do love psychology... umm, it's a bit sad sometimes, but still better to understand it.
On the upside, I've heard that after presentations for teaching people about actually gaining consent and what consent is and isn't and so forth for new college students they sometimes have people come up and say, "uh, I think I may have raped someone, what should I do?" Which does seem to show that if you teach them young enough you can help some of the people who get bad ideas from rape culture to improve. But most rape seems to be from a minority of men who rape multiple times and just do not care. Unfortunately, they get a lot of social support from men who do not rape, which makes this easy for them to do. But the men who do not do this would have little to lose and a lot to gain by discouraging the ones who do.
I also believe that dating among mixed-sex couples would become a lot better all around if we could decrease the general level of abuse, sexual violence, and fear. Even people who never experience any directly get harmed by the high rates existing, and I think it really makes dating worse for everyone. If we could drag those rates way down, I think most people would have much happier and easier experiences.
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Date: 7/7/11 08:25 pm (UTC)From:On the upside, I've heard that after presentations for teaching people about actually gaining consent and what consent is and isn't and so forth for new college students they sometimes have people come up and say, "uh, I think I may have raped someone, what should I do?" Which does seem to show that if you teach them young enough you can help some of the people who get bad ideas from rape culture to improve. But most rape seems to be from a minority of men who rape multiple times and just do not care. Unfortunately, they get a lot of social support from men who do not rape, which makes this easy for them to do. But the men who do not do this would have little to lose and a lot to gain by discouraging the ones who do.
I also believe that dating among mixed-sex couples would become a lot better all around if we could decrease the general level of abuse, sexual violence, and fear. Even people who never experience any directly get harmed by the high rates existing, and I think it really makes dating worse for everyone. If we could drag those rates way down, I think most people would have much happier and easier experiences.