I have occasionally had the whole Guess Culture concept pointed out to me, and I have followed the links when pointed to them, but I admit that I am still not very familiar with it.
However, I do recall in a previous post that someone pointed it out, that I am more or less opposed to the idea & all of my rantings seek to change that, whether I was aware of the term or not.
I do wonder how the concepts of Guess Culture and Rape Culture are related - are they correlated, or does one foster the other, or do they overlap but not actually related?
As I implied in my post, I am totally in favor of more explicit communication. I just don't like the idea that the responsibility for preventing things like rape falls on the victim's ability to communicate a rejection. It should be the default that the answer is "no" until the answer is clearly a "yes", not the other way around. So even if we did continue some kind of culture where people were mostly guessing and not talking, I'd rather they guessed in the negative or conservative, than the positive. If you have to make an error, I prefer erring on the side of caution, and whether someone wants my attention or not seems to me to definitely be a good time to make that particular error :-)
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Re: Everywomen's stories
Date: 7/8/11 12:47 am (UTC)From:However, I do recall in a previous post that someone pointed it out, that I am more or less opposed to the idea & all of my rantings seek to change that, whether I was aware of the term or not.
I do wonder how the concepts of Guess Culture and Rape Culture are related - are they correlated, or does one foster the other, or do they overlap but not actually related?
As I implied in my post, I am totally in favor of more explicit communication. I just don't like the idea that the responsibility for preventing things like rape falls on the victim's ability to communicate a rejection. It should be the default that the answer is "no" until the answer is clearly a "yes", not the other way around. So even if we did continue some kind of culture where people were mostly guessing and not talking, I'd rather they guessed in the negative or conservative, than the positive. If you have to make an error, I prefer erring on the side of caution, and whether someone wants my attention or not seems to me to definitely be a good time to make that particular error :-)