Yep, that's what I mean when I say I only date poly people - not whether or not someone adopts the label for their personal identity label, but whether or not they embrace the general ideals and concepts of polyamory whole-heartedly.
Some people might feel that it's worthwhile to swim upstream and struggle with getting a partner to be on-board with polyamory, since there are the occasional success stories with that beginning. But I think relationships have enough of their own challenges without adding to them unnecessarily. As I pointed out in the thread that prompted this whole rant, there are enough people in the world for me to love, I don't need to spend my limited resources on those with a built-in road-blocks.
So, I don't date the monos and I prefer to only date people with a black belt at life. Now to better calibrate my radar for detecting those people and to better distinguish between those who merely resemble a person who has their shit together but who are fundamentally either not poly or masquerading as black belts much like a guy I knew in high school who liked to tell us all how he mastered every martial art ever, was a model for a martial art magazine, and was a secret agent for the government (at 16) because of his awesome martial arts skills. Obviously, he was full of shit. Anyway, I'm rambling.
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Date: 7/10/13 03:17 am (UTC)From:Some people might feel that it's worthwhile to swim upstream and struggle with getting a partner to be on-board with polyamory, since there are the occasional success stories with that beginning. But I think relationships have enough of their own challenges without adding to them unnecessarily. As I pointed out in the thread that prompted this whole rant, there are enough people in the world for me to love, I don't need to spend my limited resources on those with a built-in road-blocks.
So, I don't date the monos and I prefer to only date people with a black belt at life. Now to better calibrate my radar for detecting those people and to better distinguish between those who merely resemble a person who has their shit together but who are fundamentally either not poly or masquerading as black belts much like a guy I knew in high school who liked to tell us all how he mastered every martial art ever, was a model for a martial art magazine, and was a secret agent for the government (at 16) because of his awesome martial arts skills. Obviously, he was full of shit. Anyway, I'm rambling.