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So, I originally wrote this 2 years ago. I can't believe how many relationships and tinder dates that never even made it to "relationship" stage this applies to in the last 2 years.
I like how sometimes you're all "hey, I can't do this Relationship Management stuff all by myself anymore. I'm going to need some help. Like, I need you to initiate contact more often, and plan some of our dates instead of me managing the calendar all the time. I'll be here to help you if you need help and guidance, I just don't want to smother you and micromanage you, so, y'know, whatever you need. You set the pace, whatever you're comfortable giving, I just need you to communicate with me and take some of the responsibility for keeping things going, whatever "going" means for us, just you tell me what you can do and what I can expect,"
and some dudes are all "OMG THIS IS SO MUCH WORK I CAN'T EVEN YOU ARE SO HIGH MAINTENANCE WHY EVERYBODY GOTTA DEMAND SO MUCH FROM ME I'M OUTTA HERE!"
#WhenIStopBackleading #EmotionalLabor #DomesticManagement #WhenYouAreUsedToEverythingBeingMagicallyDoneForYouEvenATinyBitOfWorkFeelsOverwhelming
I like how sometimes you're all "hey, I can't do this Relationship Management stuff all by myself anymore. I'm going to need some help. Like, I need you to initiate contact more often, and plan some of our dates instead of me managing the calendar all the time. I'll be here to help you if you need help and guidance, I just don't want to smother you and micromanage you, so, y'know, whatever you need. You set the pace, whatever you're comfortable giving, I just need you to communicate with me and take some of the responsibility for keeping things going, whatever "going" means for us, just you tell me what you can do and what I can expect,"
and some dudes are all "OMG THIS IS SO MUCH WORK I CAN'T EVEN YOU ARE SO HIGH MAINTENANCE WHY EVERYBODY GOTTA DEMAND SO MUCH FROM ME I'M OUTTA HERE!"
#WhenIStopBackleading #EmotionalLabor #DomesticManagement #WhenYouAreUsedToEverythingBeingMagicallyDoneForYouEvenATinyBitOfWorkFeelsOverwhelming
