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"OMG WHEN TRIADS DON'T GO EXACTLY AS SCRIPTED THINGS GET HARD AND COMPLICATED AND MESSY AND HOW DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT TO DO AND WHY IS THIS THING BAD BUT THAT THING IS GOOD AND WTF?!"
This is why triads are not beginner relationships. They're super complicated and super difficult and super challenging and there are tons of little nooks and crannies and shadowy corners for abuse and consent violations and unethicalness to hide in.
It takes a *really* advanced, nuanced understanding of ethics to navigate all the complexity of triads (or even quads, or any other geometric shape where everyone is involved with everyone else). Shit goes wrong. People gonna people, and what people do best is unpredictable things like have emotions that they weren't supposed to or not have emotions that they promised to have or make decisions that they post-hoc rationalize as totally "logical" but are really based on all those messy emotions.
This shit is hard and you need advanced relationship skills to navigate it when you start adding more and more people to the equation. Things don't get "simpler" when everyone is involved with everyone else, things get even more complicated than if they were all just dating individually.
And if you don't understand that (hence the need to ask questions about ethics in triads), then you're not ready for a triad relationship.
This is why triads are not beginner relationships. They're super complicated and super difficult and super challenging and there are tons of little nooks and crannies and shadowy corners for abuse and consent violations and unethicalness to hide in.
It takes a *really* advanced, nuanced understanding of ethics to navigate all the complexity of triads (or even quads, or any other geometric shape where everyone is involved with everyone else). Shit goes wrong. People gonna people, and what people do best is unpredictable things like have emotions that they weren't supposed to or not have emotions that they promised to have or make decisions that they post-hoc rationalize as totally "logical" but are really based on all those messy emotions.
This shit is hard and you need advanced relationship skills to navigate it when you start adding more and more people to the equation. Things don't get "simpler" when everyone is involved with everyone else, things get even more complicated than if they were all just dating individually.
And if you don't understand that (hence the need to ask questions about ethics in triads), then you're not ready for a triad relationship.
