I'm a geek

Nov. 6th, 2006 08:18 pm[personal profile] joreth
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So, I am such a huge nerd that, while updating my sexual history sheet, I decided to create a graphical representation of my sexual history.  It's not as detailed as I'd like, but I haven't decided how many more details I should represent.  So far, it's a bar graph/timeline that shows everyone in my history in chronological order and color-coordinated based on 4 categories:  1) casual/fuckbuddies/one-night-stands that do not include intercourse, 2) relationships that do not include intercourse, 3) casual/fuckbuddies/one-night-stands that do include intercourse and 4) relationships that include intercourse.  I thought about coding for specific activities (since they are included on the list), but the color coding or other forms of grouping would be complicated because of the large number of combinations of activities, if not number of activities themselves.  The timeline is broken up by my age in years, so it's hard to tell some of the chronology because some years I had several partners in one year, but they weren't all concurrent.  Problem is I'm so fuzzy on time, that I'm not sure how to clarify that because I can barely remember the year, let alone the month or date!  So I still have some work to do, but it's a good start.

But yeah, I'm a dork.

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Date: 11/7/06 12:52 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] madmanatw.livejournal.com
That's horribly geeky. And, thus, sounds pretty cool to me. I may try to do similar. :)

Date: 11/7/06 01:02 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] james-the-evil1.livejournal.com
Why not just set it up as an Acess database instead of an Excel spreadsheet and then you can generate multiple graphic details reports?

Date: 11/7/06 06:12 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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because I don't currently have Access installed, and I didn't sit down with the intention to create this. I developed it as I discovered my text list was getting too complicated to understand easily.

Date: 11/7/06 02:41 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] james-the-evil1.livejournal.com
ok, that makes sense
bigger & fancier's always better tho lol

Date: 11/7/06 09:08 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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Yes, I'm sure I'll eventually come up with something bigger and fancier ... I am the person, after all, who tried to build a model of the Squiggle out of tinkertoys because a 2D paper flowchart wasn't good enough ;-)

Date: 11/7/06 10:44 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] james-the-evil1.livejournal.com
Maybe if you used the Tinkertoys as a FRAMWORK and then used strands of colored lights on dimmers?

Date: 11/7/06 11:07 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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Now there's an idea! I suppose I can write a program for a lightboard that will change colors when the relationships change.

Date: 11/7/06 11:38 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] james-the-evil1.livejournal.com
If you used a computer-prgrammed dimmer set, yeah!

Date: 11/7/06 01:09 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] sylvar.livejournal.com
That's *wonderfully* geeky! I'd love to see the final product. Mine is pretty simple. I'm not sure how accurate the timeline is.

L      !                                     @
M        %
R            ######
G                      +++++
J                                   %#***************
  0 .. 21  22  23  24  25  26  27  28  29  30  31  32


!: being hit on by a cute geek and not realizing it
%: making out
#: everything but PIV
+: LTR consisting mainly of long drives and sweaty weekends
*: current relationship with multifarious fun
@: realizing it (well, having it explained to me...)

Date: 11/7/06 06:19 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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that's awesome, thanks for sharing! I was considering posting my chart too, but it's very long (as in wide), but I'm not sure about listing the names ... I share names when I trade sexual history with prospective partners, but I'm not sure about posting it on the internet :-)

Date: 11/7/06 11:58 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] sylvar.livejournal.com
The first character in each row is an initial. I don't think it matters if you use initials, but some of your partners might. But the reason to use an identifier is to establish who *isn't* who -- to say "no, the person who tied me up and left me in a closet while they went to work three years ago is NOT the person who went down on me on a banquet table in front of my friends while my ears and eyes were covered last year, why on earth would I trust someone who had done the former?", rather than to say "the former was Margaret Snatcher and the latter was Ronald Meghan".

Or at least that's why I would separate them.

Date: 11/7/06 09:05 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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yes, that's exactly whey I use identifiers. For convenience's sake, I use their most common and most readily identifiable identifiers ... their name. I considered using initials when I thought of posting it, but initials aren't quite identifiable enough ... too many of them have the same initials, so if I come up with some way to identify them, not as "who they are" but just as a way to keep them individual, I may post my own chart :-)

Date: 11/7/06 03:09 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] gaycowboys.livejournal.com
Since seeing the studies that show basically no correlation between oral sex and HPV, I've started dividing activities into 4 catagories.

Those intended to prevent transmission of all STDs (what I previously referred to as "HPV boundaries")
Those intended to prevent HPV with a small HIV risk (HPV boundaries + oral sex)
Those intended to minimize STD risk, which have small HIV and moderate HPV risk (intercourse w/ condoms)
Those that are not safe at all (unprotected sex)

That way, it's divided up pretty nicely into what STDs could possibly have been transmitted (with focus primarily on HIV and HPV as representitives of skin vs. fluid stds). I refer to them as Level 1-4, respectively, which I picked up from Fritz. I have thought of color coding for more clarity, but it's a fine line between being clear and coming off as obsessed :D.

Date: 11/7/06 06:17 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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I think, in my head, I subdivide people into similar categories, but I have those specific activities listed on the text list. And I readily admit to being borderline obsessive-compulsive :-D

Date: 11/10/06 04:53 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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so, here's a categorization question: If you have basically 4 categories - "unprotected sex", "protected sex, possibly oral sex", "HPV boundaries + oral sex", and "HPV boundaries", where would you place genital contact that is not intercourse? Because of its HPV transmission possibilities, I assume you'd place it in the "unprotected sex" category, but I want to ask anyway your thoughts on the subject. Sometimes there is accidental and/or brief contact that is not penetration. Since I'm reasonably certain that's how I acquired my own case of HPV 12 years ago (being too inexperienced to have many possibilities to choose from), I'm extremely leery of minimizing transmission potential for a contact situation, even though there might be no penetration and even a very short time for contact. So, yours or anyone else's thoughts?

Date: 11/10/06 01:35 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] gaycowboys.livejournal.com
well, I would say a quick accidental brush up in the region say when you're taking a shower or hugging or something isn't likely to pass HPV (from what I understand). It seems to make it easiest if one person just keeps their underwear on, though.

In terms of whether I'd put it in L3 or L4, I think that would depend on *why* I was L3. Before I have sex with someone with a condom I want test results, I make peace with their HPV risk, and either negotiate an agreement about future partners, or let them know that we may have to drop our boundaries back if things change in a way I'm not comfortable with. So, usually if I've got that cleared up I'm ok with fluid bonding - so while we may be using condoms for birth control (or another reason) I'm fine with getting away with whatever we can get away with otherwise.

If I'm using condoms specifically to minimize HPV risk (I could see this coming up if I was a little shakey on someone else in the network, but didn't feel there was significant risk to go all the way back to L1), then no, I would not include direct genital contact in L3. It's so rare that I get to L3 with someone though, that it's pretty easy to take it on a case by case basis.

Date: 3/21/08 04:49 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] joreth
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Unfortunately, there has now been a corrolation between oral cancers and the HPV virus, which means that oral sex *does* now have a connection to HPV. While that sucks, I have always kept oral activity in the category of "STD risky behaviour", so this doesn't actually change my patterns any, but it is noteworthy.
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